For many women, and even some men, obsession about “their looks” can be fanatical. Do you find yourself making multiple trips a day checking the bathroom scale that results in happiness or depression?
Many women like this are constantly judging themselves in comparison to others. “Do I look fat in this?” Are you always wanting or needing validation from others? It’s needy, and gets to be very tiresome for others who don’t understand your obsession with body image. It speaks about your personal fragility, a lack of self esteem.
You can be any age, and obsessed with your weight. The problem is not with your weight; it’s in your mind. It’s about self-forgetting who you are. You are so much more than what your body looks like. You have a purpose, and a unique gift that you are meant to share with others. When you are focused on that, you are happy, healthy and a good body weight – and you are not obsessed with your body and your weight! Your self esteem grows, and you realize life is not about what you look like – because that always changes. Your heart is a constant, even as you get older and your body ages and changes.
As long as you focus on losing weight, depriving yourself, blaming your body, being ashamed of what you look like, your weight issues will continue. If you are obsessed with your body image and weight, you probably won’t even want to hear this. But you MUST stop dieting. You MUST stop focusing on food, and start focusing on ways to love, and accept your body RIGHT NOW. Because the things you resist persist. It’s the Law of Attraction. And, it’s also what we know about how the brain functions. The habitual thoughts you have create neural networks that affect your physiology, and will prevent your body from “feeling safe”. It will hold onto that fat, and you will be stuck.
There are many approaches to healing your relationship with your body. EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique is a very effective tool, as are other Energy Psychology and other approaches. But the first step is accepting that you WILL NO LONGER berate yourself, no matter how overweight you are. Give up your self obsession and start living!