I gave a workshop this past weekend called “Tapping Away Pain”. I realized that the pain most people bury away is the emotional pain of being teased, humiliated, or shamed. That can be the very thing that starts you on the road to weight gain. It doesn’t necessarily make you over-eating, eat junk food, or crave carbohydrates. Being humiliated is enough to cause a chronic feeling of stress and shame that can actually slow down your metabolism, effect the way you digest food, and lead to overweight.
All too often, people are ready to blame themselves, their body, or their “character flaw” for being overweight. Overweight, or fat people (pardon me using this term that is considered disparaging) are certainly one of the favorite groups for comedians to make hurtful jokes. Yes, if you are overweight, on the outside you may laugh, but on the inside you probably are cringing, and feeling awful. You want to crawl away, hide or die from embarrassment.
It’s NOT your fault!
The worst thing is, you are blaming yourself needlessly. YES, you read that correctly. YOU did not make yourself overweight by over-eating and under-exercising. Those problems are symptoms- and dieting will not remove the reason that is creating your overweight challenge. STRESS is the problem that changes your metabolism, makes it difficult for you to have restorative sleep: which then effects your weigh. Stress can cause you to over-eat and binge, using food as a medication for stress. That food you eat when you are stressed is even caused “Comfort Food”.
Everyone has their own story about what is causing them stress. But one of the things that most people in this workshop had in common was that they remembered something someone said or did to them that humiliated them. Do you too, have this in your history? That shame, or embarrassment is still alive and functioning in their subconscious mind. That feeling can be preventing you from some activity where you might be shamed again. What is that memory holding you back from doing in your own life. How has fear of embarrassment, humiliation stopping you from fully living your life? How has this effected your self-esteem?
Maybe you are ashamed to eat real food in front of other people, because you “should” be eating “diet food”. (*Dieting is what got you overweight in the first place. Read my other articles to learn why you should NEVER be on a diet). Maybe you are ashamed to go to a gym to exercise, or take a particular exercise class because you are overweight, and don’t want to be seen?
This is a tough subject to face. Just thinking about that time can bring back those miserable feelings of the person who shamed you, perhaps there were others that laughed; maybe you are still thinking: I SHOULD have said….?
EFT can help you go back and “redo” that memory, removing the emotional intensity, and giving you EMOTIONAL Freedom from its effect. Don’t live your life constrained by the memories of past hurts and fear of having it happen again. You deserve to live your life to the fullest.
In our workshop, we Tapped on releasing humiliation and embarrassment. All of the participants in the workshop joined in this round of tapping with gusto. After just one round of tapping their faces were glowing. I actually heard a sigh of relief escape from the room! And I noticed a straightening of their spines, and more confident posture. Are you holding hurtful words somewhere that need to be vanquished? EFT is a wonderful tool to breakthrough and vanquish these terrible memories. Contact me to get started on your path to Emotional Freedom!
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